EHS’s Elizabeth Porter speaks on “Mom Guilt”
What We've Been Up To!
What We've Been Up To
We'd like to give an extra special thanks to the Saving Grace Project for having us out at their annual fundraiser as well as Belmont University and GrammyU for having us at their mental health seminar and Showcase Series!
EHS is pioneering research on mental health in the entertainment industry to better understand experiences, how to help, and prevention for mental health issues. Although such research has been done in other countries, there is little to no evidence of collecting data on mental health in entertainment here in the States.
Needless to say, the more participants we have, the better we are able to assess the pulse in the entertainment industry and assemble useful information for those in the industry. Our goal is to have at least 2,000 participants for the initial survey. Our surveys are confidential for those completing them and data collected will maintain anonymity in outcomes reports.
If you want to participate or share with others, you can check it out here! - http://bit.ly/ehssurvey2018
Digital Detangler Workshop
Our latest workshop is something we can all relate to! If you're looking to decrease your stress and screen time, especially in the workplace, this could definitely help you out!
The Cost of Technology on Mental Health in the Entertainment Industry
Featuring:
Elizabeth Porter, Founder of EHS
Pete Dunlap, Founder of Digital Detangler
Reducing Stress, Crisis, and Distraction
Whether or not you understand your digital habits, they have a massive impact on your mental health and creativity. By taking time to understand your relationship to your tech, you’ll empower yourself to make better choices. Since we spend more time on devices than we spend asleep, tweaking the way you use technology opens up vast portions of your overbooked schedule. If you struggle with trying to keep up with it all but can’t seem to disconnect, we’ll help you find the balance. By implementing the strategies we cover, your employees will experience less burnout and more creativity.
Workshop Details:
This workshop will analyze the effects of social media and technology on mental health, especially in the workplace. The CDC lists stress as the #1 health issue at work. Our intention is to reduce this stress while limiting distraction, comparisons, and time spent looking at screens.
This workshop is designed for 5-6 hours, but can be adjusted for
shorter durations!
Workshops are led by Elizabeth Porter, a licensed counselor with more than a decade in the entertainment space. Having spoken at events like Touring Career Workshop and been an entertainer herself, she has grown a successful practice by focusing on needs specific to entertainers and those who support them. Pete Dunlap, a former educator and software engineer, delivers practical tactics for nudging yourself toward technology experiences that reflect your intentions, instead of your impulses.
If you're interested in our workshops, please reach out to contact@ehsnashville.com!
Touring Career Workshop's All Access Program
A big thanks to Touring Career Workshop for having us out at their awesome event November 13! We got to share some exciting news about our research on mental health.
Not only did we get to check out the everything the workshop had to offer, we learned about how TCW is helping industry professionals with their mental health.
At EHS, we're no strangers to the fact that a career in entertainment can be very taxing on mental health, and we love learning about endeavors that work to remove barriers. Touring Career Workshop's All Access Program will pay for four sessions with one of their selected life coaches or therapists for touring professionals. Most importantly they keep it confidential and simple; they just receive the bill from the provider with none of your personal information attached. If you're struggling and need some help, check out their program at
http://www.touringcareerworkshop.com/all-access-program
The Hidden Benefits of Strength Training
With the ubiquitous social pressure to work out bombarding us everywhere we look, it seems like everyone is on the fitness train nowadays. With Hot Yoga, Barre, CrossFit, and all the other seemingly endless options, there’s something for everybody. Where do performance artists fit on this spectrum of fitness options though?
You’ve been told you need to exercise. Our bodies were made to move, but let’s be real, working out regularly and effectively is easier said than done.
Why Should I Care?
Your body is your first instrument, and when you aren’t tuning it properly, it’s only a matter of time before other things are affected. Have you ever noticed that when you spend all day on the couch, it’s exhausting? Yet, when you do a little exercise, you have more energy. That’s how our bodies were made.
In addition to less energy, a lack of exercise can also result in the following:
Less body confidence = less confidence on stage
More inflammation = more allergies, illness, and discomfort
Poor insulin resistance = more fat, trouble sleeping, increased irritability and stress
All of these things come back to one important thing, MONEY. If you don’t have energy, confidence, or good health, you can’t give it your all. People don’t want to pay for subpar performances!
Quick Run-Down of Non-Physical Benefits
Financial Benefits
Preventative maintenance is cheaper than doctor’s bills
If you get injured or sick you have to take time off from touring, recording, and working
It’s tax deductible
Not worrying about throwing your back out pushing an amp up 2nd avenue and being able to play a gig
Spiritual/Mental Benefits
Work/life balance
Self-care and “me” time
Confidence is increased
Increased self-awareness and being more in tune with your body = less chance of injury or overworking
It’s cathartic = less stress
Better sleep = more creativity and positive mood.
When your physical health is on track, other things tend to fall in place.
Confidence
By and large this is one of the biggest benefits to exercise. As a performer, this is a crucial aspect to your stage presence.
One of my long-term clients is a tenor and sings classically. He is also an author and was suffering from intense back pain from sitting all day. He wanted to feel better, but he also wanted to look out for his future health. After some time lifting weights, he was no longer guarding his back and as he picked it off the floor, his face lit up in a huge smile and he shouted “this is important!” He finally felt right in his body, and that has made all the difference in his life.
Another client of mine was a petite 24-year lady who had never worked out in her life. Two things held her back: she had no idea what to do and the gym totally intimidated her. As I walked her through barbell lifts and weighted squats, I watched her learn what to do with a dumbbell, how to hold herself, and how to move. That young lady now has confidence that spills out into the rest of her life, besides feeling confident in any gym.
Sometimes we put barriers on ourselves with what we think we can and cannot do, especially with our bodies. We limit ourselves. The gym can be intimidating, but rocking your routine translates so well to the stage and bolsters your self-confidence.
Control
Do you notice that when you take the time to clean and organize your house, you sometimes get inspired to do the same thing in other areas of your life? Or, when you started following a dedicated routine in some part of your life, you notice that dedication carries over to other places in your life?
Exercise is no exception. When you maintain a workout routine, other things fall in order. When you take dedicated time to do a planned workout and you see the results, you might even realize you have more control than maybe you thought you did over other areas of your life as well. Exercise is empowering in many aspects.
Me-Time
Maybe you feel that you have too much to do and you have to do it all perfectly, and that self-care is a frou-frou word dedicated to people who don’t have jobs and have nothing else to do? We’ve heard that if you don’t take care of yourself, no one else will. That’s absolutely true.
Our schedules are so jammed that fitting in things around work, family, and survival seems impossible. For example, I love music, but when I play all day long, from rehearsals to practice to recording to concerts, there’s no balance.
You need to step away and enjoy a hobby. Doing something physical so that you can’t be tempted by taking calls, checking emails, or looking at screens will help you see the value of purposely carving out that time for yourself. You have to have the control to say “I see the value in this. I’m putting my foot down, and these few hours a week I carve out just for me. I have to have that time that I devote to myself.”
Better Mood
Exercise releases endorphins (what we experience as the “feel good” hormones) and who doesn’t want more of those? Often we turn to other things to heighten our mood, but these things tend to be temporary. You can learn to feel good and proud for pushing yourself, doing a little more each time, and feeling your body move the way it was meant to.
Decreased Anxiety
This benefit goes along with increased confidence. We can build up so much anxiety about ourselves, doing things perfectly, and being enough for not just ourselves, but for everyone else in our lives.
When you step into the gym, you are allowing yourself to be a beginner again. There are no expectations for you there. Can you feel the relief that comes with those words?
Putting yourself in the hands of a coach that is right for you can do so much to alleviate stress and performance anxiety. And, as you get stronger and more confident, your anxiety decreases. Decreased anxiety allows you to be more creative and relax. Your cortisone levels will go down and so will your weight.
Increased Creativity
Why is it the best ideas seem to come to us in the shower? Hot water can serve as a vasodilator, letting your blood vessels open up and allowing easier blood flow to the brain. With that increased blood flow comes increased oxygen, which in turn, helps to give us some of our best ideas.
The same things happen when we exercise. The blood vessels dilate to allow more blood flow to the muscles and to the brain which increases our creativity.
Better Sleep
Have you ever moved? You know, had to pack up everything you own and unpack it somewhere else? Do you remember at the end of the day how bone-tired you were? How did you sleep after that?
There’s a certain satisfaction to physical exertion and knowing you’ve really pushed yourself. Your body needs to recover and after a workout, the only place it can rebuild and recover is sleep. So, if you find yourself tossing and turning, a good workout might be all you need.
Give it a try and if you want some guidance, I’m here for you!
Who Am I?
I got my start in the world of performance injury relatively young. I discovered the flute in middle school and by high school I was playing the Nashville Youth Symphony and attending Governor’s School for the Arts and Interlochen Arts Camp. My body was completely unprepared for the sheer volume of playing. Unsurprisingly, I developed pain in my left wrist. Doctor told me it was tendonitis and to “stop playing”.
Fast forward to graduate school at Florida State, where I was working on my master’s in flute performance. I got into the habit of working out every day. At the time, I had no idea of two important things 1) what proper weight lifting form was 2) what exercises were good and bad for me based on my high volume of playing.
Unfortunately, the way I was working out didn’t help. I went to health services, in agonizing pain. The doctor gave me a prescription for muscle relaxers said “stop playing”. As a performance major in graduate school, this was simply not possible.
Third and final straw came after grad school when I learned about a piccolo audition for a job I really wanted. I didn’t know the orchestral repertoire, so I dove in, cramming hours a day to learn the music. After a couple of weeks, my body again tried to warn me something was wrong. I’ll never forget the doctor’s words. “Ordinarily I’d give you a cortisone shot in the trigger point in your chest that’s causing the back spasms to help it relax. Unfortunately, it’s right over your heart, and it might kill you, so you should probably just stop playing”.
I was fed up. I decided that since I couldn’t find any answers, I would be the answer.
I discovered the National Academy of Sports Medicine, where I got my Certified Personal Training certificate and Corrective Exercise Specialization. That’s when it hit me that there was nothing like this out there for musicians. There was nothing to teach them smart strength training to address muscle imbalances. There was no outlet prolonging their careers instead of telling them to stop playing.
I went on to obtain my Senior Fitness Specialization and Cancer Fitness Specialization. I also accepted the position of Chair of the Performance Health Committee for the National Flute Association.
All of these steps led me to found Music Strong. Currently I’m building a team of professionals to help musicians in all ways because a musician’s wellness and fitness is best served as a team approach.
Angela McCuiston is a NASM-CPT, CES, SFS, CETI-CES and holds her M.M. in flute performance from The Florida State University. An active musician, she plays assistant principal/piccolo in Sinfonia Gulf Coast of Destin, FL and with the 129th Army Band in Nashville, as well as teaching and freelancing in Nashville, TN. Winner of the 2005 Piccolo Masterclass Competition for the National Flute Association, she has fused her love of fitness and music to form Music Strong, a business that provides health answers to musicians. In 2018 she accepted the position of Chair of the Performance Health Committee for the NFA and is sought out national as a resource in musician’s health and fitness. She currently resides in Cane Ridge, TN where when she is not playing, lifting, teaching or training, you can find her cycling across the countryside.
Saving Grace: A Community Platform for Suicide Prevention
Talking about suicide is never easy, especially when it has claimed a friend or loved one. And unfortunately, chances are that we all know someone who has been affected by suicide.
For the caring minds behind The Saving Grace Project, an endeavor dedicated to preventing suicide and honoring those whose lives have been taken from suicide, this sentiment definitely rings true.
The project started when Grace Pinckney Evans, a talented songwriter and musician, ended her life in January of 2015 while she was a student at Belmont University.
Her friends and fellow musicians were shell shocked, plagued by the feelings and questions suicide loss survivors often experience. As they processed their grief together, they realized that the best way to honor their friend was to create her legacy through what she loved most: music.
The group decided to write and record an album dedicated to Grace, aptly named Saving Grace.
Stephanie Boshea, a member of The Saving Grace Project, remembers writing her contribution to the album. “I felt like Grace helped me write it, the words poured out in under five minutes on a crowded bus in Ireland. This was a few months before Marjorie, Julia and I got talking about putting an album together. Then, after we started up the album process, we found Sam and Innovo to get the ball rolling for the show. Looking back on the story of the Saving Grace Project, I think this is something that Grace would’ve loved and supported and participated in.”
When I listen to the album, the raw emotion and love for Grace is palpable and it moves me to tears.
After partnering with local powerhouse Innovo Management, The Saving Grace Project developed into an annual benefit to raise awareness about suicide and the importance of mental health, for Grace, the nearly 44,000 Americans lost to suicide yearly, and others struggling. Not only does the annual benefit raise money for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, it has become a welcoming community platform for discussion and healing.
To help support The Saving Grace Project, come out to the Exit/in Saturday October 20, 2018 for their annual benefit concert. I will be there to say a few words as well!
Come out and listen to some awesome music to support a great cause!
SAVING GRACE:
10/20/18, Exit/In, 18+
Event Page : https://www.facebook.com/events/2112746555652469/
Website (story, tickets, donations) : http://www.savinggraceproject.com
Charity Info : https://afsp.org
Saving Grace Story : http://www.savinggraceproject.com/story/
Saving Grace write-up : https://www.nashvilleoffbeat.com/music/saving-grace-show
Contact Us:
(615) 800-2634
@ehsnashville
A Mother's Story of Her Son's Battle with Mental Health- In memory of Garrett Miller (1985-2015)
“I miss kissing his cheek”
These words still echo in my mind as I write this article. These are the words of Renee Miller, mother of the late Garrett Miller (1985-2015), spoken as we concluded our lunch. Renee shared her story. Now we share it with you in hopes of reaching the hearts of others struggling with the pain of mental health.
Garrett’s mother describes him as a “gentle and sensitive” child who always had a love for music. He started with violin and later switched to guitar. In 2004, his high school band Paris won a battle of the bands, even knocking out the now world famous Paramore. Besides music, Garrett’s mother says he was involved in his church and attended several mission trips overseas. He had a “passion for life, for God, sharing his faith with anyone, his Love for others, the homeless”. Garrett was seemingly a normal kid, although his mother says he did struggle with school and may have demonstrated some signs of ADHD. “He was more interested in friends, activities, and social life”. Outside of academic struggles, she describes him a joyful, outgoing, and creative. How would she have guessed the struggles that were to come in his early adult life?
“He was impulsive, at times… not giving a lot of thought to decisions”
After highschool, Garrett pursued his passion with music, playing gigs, writing, and recording. His mother says he would hold down side jobs throughout the years, but never really met financial successes. He had various roommates throughout the years and would take residency on friends couches for brief periods. The common struggles as a musician, would soon be compounded by some severe mental health episodes.
“It was July 2007 (age 22 years old). His first breakdown and subsequent two week hospital stay”
The first Episode:
“He called me and didn’t sound right. His speech was halted. He sounded panicked and confused.
When I went to his apartment, he looked horrible with dark circles around his eyes, like he hadn’t slept in days. He was not making sense.
I brought him to our house and we got him to doctor who prescribed what I think were antidepressants and something to help him sleep.
In the morning he was gone. We couldn’t find him and his dad went driving around searching for him and found him wandering down a back road with his bible talking about the how the Lord was returning soon.
Not knowing what this was or what to do was so very frightening. I called my counselor and she said get him to the emergency room. Endless hours passed as they tested his blood for drugs. He was talking nonsense, but was so very kind the whole time to all of the attendants, doctors and nurses. But he didn’t know what day or month it was.
We had to commit him to Vanderbilt Psychiatric Hospital where he spent 2 weeks.”
This would be the first of six more episodes over the next eight years. Each subsequent episode was caused by him going off his meds... not sleeping, becoming disoriented, confused and at times wandering off again in a similar daze, resulting in family and friends looking for him. He was later diagnosed with Bipolar I Disorder and spent these last eight years of his life attempting the balance of life and mental health. It became a cycle of establishing balance, medications, therapists, manic episodes, breakdowns, dreaded phone calls of another episode and hospitals. Garrett’s mother says the episodes were consequently after he would stop taking his medications for one reason or another. His loved ones did their best to manage life outside of the heartbreaking cycle, until that cold night when the world stopped moving for this family.
“It was Garrett's 7th major breakdown and relapse that took him "Home”.
On the evening of Friday, March 6th, 2015, my life, our family, all that I’ve known, would never be the same. My heart would forever beat with a wounded beat.
A frantic phone call from his sweet wife of just 10 months, that familiar panic, an urgent call to the police, prayers upon prayers, all of us searching for him. Hoping. Believing. Trusting that he would be found, just like all the other times.
"God, please... just keep him warm." I pleaded.
On that crisp, clear, freezing cold, full moon, star-filled night, my son walked for nearly 3 hours, wearing just a thin jacket over his clothes and slippers. Wandering and disoriented.
And then, under that beautiful full moon and bright stars on that cold winter night, attempting to cross, he stepped out onto the interstate....”
Garrett Miller, 29, accident. Tennessean
Garrett’s mother speaks of the agonizing pain and grief she has experienced since the passing of her son. She shares some of these emotions through her blog Broken but Beautiful . Renee tells us of the struggle with others’ misconceptions about mental health and the stigma that surrounds it. While others assumed Garrett’s death as a suicide, she knew the power of his condition when held captive by an episode. It is sometimes difficult to see the severity of mental health, especially when stigma puts shame on sharing such things. Renee states Garrett kept most of his mental health struggles private and the family respected this (“it was his story to tell”). She wants to honor Garrett’s memory by speaking out about the realities of mental health and the associated stigma. Renee has also kept his music alive through Bandcamp
“What I learned through all this…”
Renee admits she had her own misconceptions about mental health before Garrett’s diagnosis and wishes she had more information in the beginning. She talks about the importance of accepting mental illness as any other illness. Recognizing the brain for what it is, an organ in the body, and mental illness as the medical condition, not a choice.
Some of the barriers Renee says they faced was knowledge of available resources (knowing who and where to seek help), lack of quality psychiatric facilities, lengthy emergency room protocols, lack of education for the general public awareness, and stigma. The things she found to be beneficial in this mental health battle was the crisis mobile unit, NAMI education classes and support groups, mental health clinics that provide caseworkers, and general education on mental health. Lastly, Renee shares with us the things she believe would have been helpful through this journey. She applauds spaces like Nuci’s Space in Athens, GA that support locals musicians, especially those struggling with mental health. Renee states she wishes there were mentors available to those starting out in the music industry to support and guide individuals through the struggles and complex system of entertainment. Lastly, she hopes for more campaigns and fundraisers to raise awareness on mental health and improve resources available. Renee expresses a deep appreciation of music and recognizes the complexity of navigating life as an artist with mental health. While she is very open with the fact the pain of losing her son is still very present, her efforts in educating and combating mental health stigma through her story are so impactful. We greatly appreciate the chance to sit with Renee Miller and learn more about her amazing son, Garrett. We are also grateful to share this story in hopes others may feel consequently moved in some positive direction, whether with fighting stigma, their own mental health, or the struggles of others.
I can see love is shining
I believe it’s time for Hope again
I can see Love is shining
and I believe it’s time for Hope again
It’s time for Hope ~ Garrett Miller (1985-2015)
Is there a mental health epidemic in Entertainment?
5 Tips to Staying Balanced and Healthy on Tour!
Are you going on tour this spring/summer? We got you covered on how to take care of yourself out on the road while you go through all the obstacles that come with road life! The fact is, especially if you are the front man/woman, it is ever important to make sure that “your cup is filled” so that you may then help out others around you and be as productive as possible in leading the band through tour. With the following 5 tips, you can know that you are doing what it takes to make sure you that you are out on the road and promoting your music in the best way that you can.
Exercise
Now I am not talking about running a half marathon every single morning because that is not realistic (for most people on the road!).
- Something you can do first thing in the morning that is relatively easy is to take a walk and loosen up anything that might have been contorted while sleeping on that friend’s floor or the bus. You can even turn it in a “gratitude walk” as Tony Robbins coins, where you do a meditative exercise as you while only focusing on your breath and what you are grateful for. The point is that you get up and get your body moving, which is not only good for your body but for your mind as well.
- Is someone in your camp into yoga? If so, there are a lot of different great youtube videos of simple routines that can get your body moving to release any tight muscles you may have!
- Body weight exercises such as air squats, lunges, push-ups, sit-ups, burpees, pull-ups, running, and jumping are great ways to keep your body moving while on the road!
Nutrition
This component is so incredibly helpful for bodily functions but for mental quality as well. So many people will not feel well and not take into account what they are putting into their bodies.
- Find what fuels you in the morning and stick to it. Coffee only? Works for some. For me, it is a smoothie and coffee. I drink that religiously and that way I can save time and never have to think about what I will eat. This combo fuels me until 12:00 pm every single day. For others it may be toast or something smaller. The point is, learn what fuels you best and remove the Mickey D’s breakfast sandwiches, it’ll help you in the long run, guaranteed!
- Get a cooler and put some good healthy stuff in there! Turkey, trail mix, and nuts in general, fruit, etc. You know what your band likes… and getting a cooler will definitely save money in the long run!
Hydrate
This is also another commonly overlooked component to healthy tour life.
- Water is essential to feeling your best and it can even flush out the toxins consumed while on the road!
- Tea can be a great substitute to coffee and so try this out as well!
- Monitor consumption during your shows to make sure that you feel the best you can feel.
Community
I have heard countless times that the people you surround yourself with on tour can have a huge impact on how successful the tour goes. I believe this to be true!
- Choose the people you surround yourself with wisely. Reconsider the people that create unnecessary problems, require too much energy, aren’t as motivated as you and look for the people that do the opposite of those things!
- The old adage “We are the sum of the 3 people we spend most time with in our lives.”
Alone Time
Saving the most important for last! It is essential to get some “you time” while on the road, even away from the people that you love and surround yourself with
- Now certain people will thrive off of that extrovert energy more than others but even so, 5-15 minutes a day of just calming your mind and cutting out the “noise” will help you turn your tour into a successful marathon, guaranteed.
- Stopping to breathe, clear your mind, and focus on something beyond the stresses of touring life is among the healthiest things you can do.
In conclusion, let us know if the aforementioned 5 tips are helpful for you while you are on tour. Everyone is different and has their own ways of maintaining themselves so let us know what you do! It is just as important now than ever to take care of yourself first. This isn’t being selfish, this is considered the greatest way to keep progressing successfully.
Written by: Trace Loptien
Rob Carona's 3 Tips for Success in Music Business
Rob Carona’s 3 Tips For Success in Music Business
This week, we were lucky enough to speak with Rob Carona, a singer-songwriter originally from California who now resides in Nashville, TN. Rob opened up to us about his three tips to success in the music industry. Before we get into those tips, let’s find out a little bit more about Carona and the history that brought him here today.
Rob was born and raised in San Diego, CA yet states that he has “roots deep in the heart of Louisiana.” He states that “music is life” and has always been his thing. Rob now has a family of 3 daughters and so he discusses with us the balance he has with music and family. Rob states that the success of his EP is what led him to move to Nashville to further work on his songwriting and music. Rob speaks with us about the struggle of having to sell his guitar at one point to pay for rent and his sacrifice of working a commission job when his true passion was with music. Rob followed up by stating, “family first, then music.” Thankfully, Rob stated he was able to buy his guitar back! Without further ado, here are Rob’s three tips to success if you are hoping to make a living as a musician.
1. Treat it like a business:
Firstly, Rob states that you have to treat music like a business if you want to really go for it. This means “setting up shows consistently, setting up co-writes, which [based on my experience] aren’t a thing back out west… it is more of a personal thing out there.” He explains that if you really want to make music a lifestyle, you have to make sacrifices and treat it with the same diligence that a business would have. This means learning to say no to certain obligations and “doing it even if you don’t want to.” For Rob, he also combines his touring and playing shows along with teaching songwriting to supplement income. Rob is a part of “Nashville Christian Songwriters” and has his own gig where he teaches music lessons as well. To finish this idea, Rob states that you must have dedication, which leads into the next point;
2. Remain unjaded; if you’re going to do it – do it for a specific reason:
Rob states that it is “easy to become jaded” in this industry and that sometimes you must “remember why you are doing it.” Rob told us that he has changed his idea of “success” since he began and tailored it to his life once he started a family. Now that he has a family, Rob tells us that his focus is on his family first and on teaching songwriting to others as a means of income instead of focusing solely on touring and playing shows. He goes on to say that there are a lot of setbacks and things that can and will go wrong and that you need to be able to stay above all of those things if you want to succeed. We talked about how it may take years for you to make even a little progress and that is why being in the music industry is really a psychologically demanding job and not for everyone.
3. Craft and define your own version of success:
Lastly, Rob is saying here that it is important to set your own definition of success because if not, “you can just keep going and end up unhappy and unsatisfied.” He states that “if you want to be rich and famous, great, just understand how much work that takes.” We at EHS liken this to the “Burner Theory”. If you have four burners [on a stove], which are turned up the most out of; Family, Friends, Health, Work? Furthermore, Rob states, “If you just want to make a living by doing what you love creatively, great, then go for that.” Rob states that it is incredibly important to constantly be setting up clear goals, because “if you don’t know why you are doing it or what you want, you can get lost.”
“Play it S.M.A.R.T”! One way that EHS thinks about setting up goals is with the SMART method. This includes breaking down and defining goals in a way that they are;
- Specific: Simple, sensible, significant
- Measurable: Meaningful, motivating
- Achievable: Agreed, Attainable
- Relevant: Reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based
- Time Bound: Time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive
We just want to take the opportunity to thank Rob for speaking with us and sharing some of his industry insights! We are excited for the release of Rob Carona's new single "Down To The River" coming out soon! This new single speaks to overcoming life struggles and is truly an inspirational song with lyrics most if not all can relate to! Thanks Rob for continuing to reach into others hearts with your music and using your art to inspire connectedness! Stay tuned to EHS and www.robcarona.com for more details!
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Adding to the Ordinary: Centricity Music's John Mays tells his father's story
From 1950 to 1990, my Dad worked in the oil fields of West Texas. In those first 20 years or so, he rarely had a day off. Regardless of how hot, how cold, how windy or how sick he might’ve been, he got up at 4:30, grabbed a lunchpail that mom had packed the night before, got in his pickup and headed out. Day after day. This was his life.
John Mays’ dad stands next to his pickup truck, holding his lunch pail, on his way to work in the oil fields of West Texas.
This work fed our family and raised my sisters and me, but it left little time for much else. The oil field is a merciless taskmaster; but somehow Dad endured with a generosity of spirit and sense of humor that left a legacy.
I’m not really sure which came first – either Dad mentally came to the end of doing that thing one more day, or his body just gave out on him. Maybe it was some of both, but around the end of the 80s, he was done; and we had the great privilege of providing a place for both Dad and Mom as they lived out the rest of their lives with us here in Tennessee. Those were great days. My Dad loved them and we loved being able to watch him discover life after the oil patch.
One of those discoveries came as a surprise as we watched Dad begin to tinker around out in the shed. Who knew what he was messing around with until one day he sheepishly showed us the fruit of the creative seed that had been laying fallow in him for so long.
I know. It doesn’t look like much, but for a man who had never made a thing with his hands his entire life, it was impressive. And you could put your weight down on it!
He began making benches all the time. Sometimes one or two a day. We had benches everywhere (and still do!). We gave them to neighbors and friends, people at work and church. Literally, these benches were the ultimate in simplicity – some two-by-fours and some nails. No paint, no sanding, no nothing. But for me, there was something beautiful about them as they represented something profound… my Dad’s ability to create.
He passed away in 2007 leaving a lot of love and a lot of benches behind. But that wasn’t the end of the story.
A few summers ago we were blessed with the experience of giving away our daughter Kelsey in marriage. For anyone who’s been part of planning a wedding, you can empathize with the year of work that proceeds the big day. Lucky for me, this planning lived mostly in a female world so I didn’t have to get too involved. So you might imagine my surprise when I learned that much of the focus of the wedding decorations would come from an unlikely place. Dad’s benches.
Kelsey worked with Dianne (my wife) and our friend Terri to begin to imagine what beautiful things could come from adding to these ordinary benches, and I was stunned to see the results.
Here’s what I hope you start to see. Dad’s benches alone wouldn’t have been much as a decoration piece. And the flowers and vines could’ve been just another floral arrangement. But had Dad never had the courage to create and show that first piece of his “art”, the girls wouldn’t have had such a special foundation for theirs.
As Brenda Ueland wrote in the very special book “If You Want To Write” – “Everyone is talented, original and has something important to say.” Everyone. And the expression of your unique gifting is something important for you to not only discover, but to share with someone. Once that happens, you may be blown away with what someone else’s personal expression can add to yours, or what you can add to theirs. What someone’s lyric might bring to your melody. Someone’s seasoning to your recipe. Someone’s music for your dance. Someone’s frame to your decorating. Someone’s second step to your first.
“Everyone is talented, original, and has something important to say.”
–Brenda Ueland
Creating and expressing anything can, of course, at times be a very isolating and lonely journey, and for some of you, maybe that is how it will be. But for others, perhaps especially for those of you still wishing to, but yet to actually create, collaboration might be the key to the door, and might just produce something you could’ve never imagined on your own.
A few things to remember…
1. You’re never too old to start. Mark Twain, William Butler Yeats, Alfred Hitchcock and Irving Berlin all produced their greatest work after turning Fifty. (Dad was 74 when he built his first bench!)
2. What the object of your creative impulse might be is not as important as your willingness to express it. The thing you create, your work, will get better over time, but the point is to start, then share. Like Dad, this is a part of how you will love the world around you.
3. That inner voice of resistance will always be there to criticize and condemn. Create anyway. “If the voice inside you says you can not paint, then by all means paint and the voice will be silenced.” – Vincent Van Gogh
What could you bring in to the world this week that didn’t exist before you created it? What could you bring to something someone else has created? If you need some time to sit and think about it, I’ve got a great bench for you.
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EHS Spotlight Stories- Elizabeth Eckert
EHS will be sitting down with individuals in entertainment to discuss a wide range of topics as they relate to personal experiences in this industry. We hope these stories will help continue to open the gates in discussions of mental health and what that looks like in the entertainment industry. We believe there is great value in recognizing mental health’s impact on each path and inspiration to be found in the up’s and down’s of other’s journeys.
This week we talked with Nashville’s Elizabeth Eckert to discuss some of her personal perspectives on life as an artist. Elizabeth is a songwriter, singer, and pianist currently signed with Right Recordings in the United Kingdom. She will be traveling to the UK for her second tour this coming June and will soon be releasing her newest single “Church Bells”. Elizabeth admitted her career in music is not what she initially expected with the biggest shift occurring her junior year in college.
Elizabeth began playing piano at the age of three years old and dreamed of becoming a classical pianist. She explains both her parents were musicians and she found herself naturally building her identity around being a pianist. She excelled in piano and found herself in college continuing to reach for her dreams as a classical pianist. It was in her junior year of college that she would face one of her greatest obstacles. She began to experience pain in her wrist and soon discovered she was having complications from a prior childhood injury, severely limiting her ability to play and causing tendinitis symptoms. With the medical recommendation being surgery, Elizabeth states she then realized “I was not going to be able to do what I had worked so hard for”. After completing surgery, Elizabeth reports she spent the next couple years lying her prior dreams to rest and “reinventing myself as a musician”. She continued teaching piano, starting doing some singing and songwriting, and moved to Nashville to begin teaching piano through the Blair School at Vanderbilt. She found she could still play the piano in a less demanding form of singer/songwriter. Elizabeth reports others began to refer to her as a singer, an identity she had not considered before. She spoke to the importance of being “flexible in your music career”. Elizabeth admitted being flexible can be difficult when you have ideas of how you want your career to go, but opportunities can come in different forms and you have to be open to receive them.
We asked Elizabeth how her personal values have shaped her music career and her response was being authentic and honest in her music. She said she writes songs that speak the truth in her world. Her newest song “Church Bells” speaks to her recent marriage this past year. She reports there had been some who told her to avoid releasing such songs since they “make her seem unavailable”. We at EHS have heard similar statements before about the impact of image on marketing yourself as a musician. Is that the path to success? Putting on a mask and selling yourself as something you’re not. How does this promote a healthy self image and mental wellness for our artists? We were happy to hear the support Elizabeth received from her record label in releasing this song, but we know this is an obstacle many other artist face. How important is transparency and authenticity in music or to the wellbeing of the artist?
When it comes to maintaining a healthy lifestyle, Elizabeth reports she finds balance in spending time writing songs for herself late at night and finding time outside of music doing activities such as sailing and strength training. She admits she started strength training to keep herself in shape for her stage presence, but reports it has become so much more, especially in maintaining a healthy mindset.
We appreciate the time Elizabeth took to share her story with us and can’t wait to see where her music career will go next. Check out her new single “Church Bells” released today!
Blog Written By: Elizabeth Porter
7 Keys to Holding Hope in the Entertainment Industry
“Do the best you can with yourself and hope for the best.” - Loretta Lynn
Welcome to Nashville, the place where dreams come true for aspiring musicians, singers, and songwriters. Ambitious musicians and songwriters move to Nashville every day with hopes and dreams of seeing what music city can do for them. Many learn the path to success is very different from what they envisioned and then the real test begins. How do we hold onto hope when our path in music doesn’t go as planned? How do we manage the potential disappointments while maintaining a positive mental state of mind? How do we continue to grow in our music career without burning out or becoming jaded? There is no doubt that pressures and demands in the entertainment industry can leave your head spinning. Sometimes maintaining hope can become the biggest struggle. While the topic of holding hope can be a difficult subject to condense into one article, we will focus on seven key elements in sustaining hope.
Set SMART Goals
SMART goals are as follows; Specific, Measurable, Action-Oriented/Achievable, Realistic, and Time-Bound goals. It is important to decipher what your goals are versus expectations with your music career. Unmet expectations can quickly lead to resentment and feelings of hopelessness. Therefore, it is more productive to set SMART goals. This requires you to be specific in the goals you set and make sure they are measurable. If you aim to “make it" in the entertainment or songwriting world, then be specific when defining this. What would “making it" look like for you and how would you measure success? Make sure goals are action-oriented and realistic. If you have big dreams and ambitions in the entertainment world, remember it doesn’t happen over night. List the short term actions you need to start taking to move towards your goal and make sure they are realistic. Perhaps setting a number of co-writing sessions per week, finding a seasoned musician to mentor you and meeting monthly, or set aside time to work on your music each day. These goals are specific, measurable, action focused, and generally realistic. Make sure your goals focus on things you can do. Setting a goal to get a record deal by the end of the year is great, but you have limited control of the outcome. However, working on steps that may set you up to start exploring record deals in the next year, focuses on actions you can take now. Lastly, make sure your goals are time-bound and set a deadline for achieving each goal.
Reframe Obstacles
Holding onto hope when things are hard can seem impossible, especially when you have invested so much into your music career. How do you make lemonade when life seems to be dishing out lemons? Difficult times can leave us feeling out of control and powerless. This can cause fear and even anger. The reality is there are many aspects of life that we are not in control of, but we can control how we respond to these events. Do you look at obstacles in your career as disappointments or failures? It is ok to be disappointed when things don’t pan out the way you had hoped, but dubbing it a failure diminishes hope and confidence in those goals. Stevie Wonder and Ray Charles both overcame adversity of losing their sight and continued on to make history in music. Obstacles and disappointments can only debilitate us if we allow our minds to settle in that space. Reframing obstacles and self-talk takes practice and attentiveness, but a positive mindset is imperative to maintaining hope, productivity, and resiliency.
Acknowledge Strengths
Everyone has certain skill-strengths as well as weaknesses, but focusing on your strengths will elevate hope and confidence. Acknowledge areas of improvement and either work within your limitations or outsource these tasks. For example, if your a songwriter, but not great with any particular instrument, you may continue working on learning an instrument while using a guitarist to play shows while you sing your songs. Identify what your strengths are and look at ways you can highlight these skills in working towards your musical goals. Confidence is key in maintaining hope and reaching your goals, so be mindful of your skills and remind yourself of your strengths. Monitor your "self-talk" or inner monologues, which I often refer to as the “tape” you play in your mind. This is similar to a sports commentator at a game, announcing each success and failure you make during a game. Changing our immediate and deconstructive thoughts is like reprograming a computer and takes work. Negative self-talk can cause you to repeatedly question yourself to the point of self-doubt, uncertainty, and hopelessness. Clinical levels of depression and anxiety have been found to be deeply rooted in deconstructive self-talk. Acknowledge your strengths, remind yourself daily, and set affirmations if you feel you need to tackle any self-doubts.
Cultivate a Supportive Environment
When developing hope, it is advantageous to cultivate supportive relationships and surround yourself with a strong community. The music industry is forever changing and the pressures can feel overwhelming at times. You don’t have to do it all alone. Spend time with those who encourage and are invested in you. Be that supportive individual to others as well, but make sure you are not draining yourself to maintain the relationship. I have seen numerous people fall off task with their goals because they are preoccupied with tending to a maladaptive relationship with someone. Ultimately, when you surround yourself with people who believe in you, this will help promote feelings of hope.
Find a Cause
Finding a way to give back and volunteer has great benefits for mental wellbeing and sustaining hope. Volunteering not only connects you to your community, but gives a sense of achievement and purpose. It is an opportunity for you to share your skills or learn new skills and build your self-esteem and confidence. It can help us step away from our personal stressors and obtain a fresh perspective. There are countless volunteer opportunities, but sometimes it’s as simple as giving a free music lesson. It is easy to get wrapped up in our projects or routine, but the positive effects of volunteering are often immediate when we can disconnect from our own worries to help others. I cannot list all of the programs and charities supported by those in the music industry, but rest assured that they are numerous and readily accessible. And remember that instilling hope for others helps promote personal hope as well.
Celebrate Victories
A major contributing component to our level of hope is the actual achievement of our goals. These accomplishments give us validation, which instills hope and empowers us to move forward. This is why setting smaller attainable goals and celebrating each success is essential in bringing more hope into your life and specifically your music career. Anyone can look at their life and find areas where they feel they are falling short (as a musician, employee, friend, significant other, son/daughter…). Yes, acknowledge shortcomings and areas of improvement, but dwelling on this will not serve you well.
Trust and Faith
Trust and faith are the cornerstones of hope. Trust is based on evidence, while faith is based on hope or belief in what we do not know or cannot see. Trust in yourself as a musician/songwriter and your ability to grow in your career. Maintain the faith that if you continue to develop in your career, then things will work out the way they are supposed to (and in the timeframe they are supposed to). This does not mean things will necessarily work out the way you want them to. Many stories of success in the music industry had unconventional paths. Before his break in music, Gene Simmons was an elementary school teacher and even spent some time working for women’s fashion magazines. Not really the steps towards music success that many would envision. Dierks Bentley spent time cleaning out house boat toilets prior to his full-time music career. Life is often surprising and we need to be flexible with accepting the journey as well as the destination. We never know what each chapter may be preparing us for or how it is shaping us, so embrace the moments. When we lose trust and faith, hope begins to diminish and fear takes the front seat. Many say music is all they have, and all they need to succeed. However, if you begin to lose hope and move into panic mode, this will likely become counteractive.
A Final Thought
Holding hope in the music industry is imperative to motivation, resiliency, happiness, and growth. Thousands of musical souls embark on this journey with the hopes of “making it” in the entertainment world, but we all know it is generally a long hard road. When you feel you have fallen too far off your path, reach out to those around you for support, take steps to instill hope again, or seek professional counseling. Remember this when you are in the beginning stage of setting your goals and defining what success means to you. Vincent Van Gogh only sold one painting in his entire lifetime, even though he painted over 900 pieces of art that are celebrated worldwide. Would you define this as success? Why did he keep painting if his art wasn’t selling? If music is in your heart, then try and look beyond the external validation and find the passion and drive within.
This blog post was contributed by Elizabeth Porter, LPC-MHSP.
President of Entertainment Health Services (EHS), providing Counseling for Creatives in the Nashville area.
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